I’ve got a bun in the oven!
I still feel like I found out yesterday that my husband and I are having a baby. Meanwhile, I am actually coming closer to the halfway mark! My first trimester definitely had its ups and downs, and so far second trimester is smooth sailing. As the first in my immediate family to be a mommy-to-be, I find myself having to learn a lot of things on my own while trying my hardest to remember what my mother had told me growing up. So far, here’s what I learned.
1. Prenatals are great, but you don’t have to go overboard. Depending on your original age and health status, you do not have to go crazy with prenatal vitamins. Take me, for instance -> I’m 27, have a (mostly) healthy diet, and have no major health complications. I also can’t swallow pills without breaking them up first. Yes, I’m that person. I blame my 10 years of braces. Though I’m blessed to be in a healthy state, I was also scared out of my mind while perusing mommy blogs about gummies vs pills vs tablets, once or twice a day pills, DHA vs increased folic acid….What do I do? I’ll tell you. I found a once-a-day brand of pills I can swallow in two steps (Nature’s Finest), and am following my usual healthy diet. I will admit that I did not take them everyday during my first trimester as my morning sickness came and went unexpectedly. I am not worried. There have been thousands of Nobel Peace Prize Winners and centuries of geniuses that were born from mothers who didn’t take pills.
2. Don’t buy pregnancy books. That goes for fancy pregnancy blogs, too. Unless your doctor strongly recommends a medically sound piece of literature, all that reading is going to make you paranoid. Everyone is different. Your fertility is not Jane’s fertility. Your uterus is not RaRaMama’s uterus. And your baby will NEVER be like anyone else’s, either. So why put yourself through constant comparisons and stress that prevents you from sleeping at night? If you are very good at taking what you read with a grain of salt, by all means, read up on what you need to. I pick and choose what may be relevant to me, but save myself the worry and self-depricating judgement when I read that Dandelion Tea is so much better than Ginger Tea for morning sickness.
3. DIET IS EVERYTHING. What you eat, your baby eats. That is all you need to know in making good decisions. Trust yourself, because we are all good women and good mothers at heart. There are lists of do’s and don’ts, and depending on your doctor and your own health you may have to follow certain guidelines. HOWEVER, don’t beat yourself up if you didn’t eat all the portions of salmon you were “supposed to” this week. (I can’t remember the last time I ate salmon…its just not appetizing right now.) Diet recommendations change every ten years or so for regular people, and they seem to change more for pregnant women. So eat what is good for your baby, eat what is natural, eat what you want, and make adjustments accordingly. You will always be the one who knows best for yourself, and ultimately your child.
4. Become stress-free. If at any point in your life you were to be given a hall pass, now is the time. And any other time you are pregnant. Stress affects your baby’s growth and development just as much (or maybe more) than your diet does. There’s no sense in taking the best prenantal vitamin if you can’t sleep at night and having migraines from work or family issues.
Now is the time to start making healthy boundaries and making decisions that benefit your growing family. Pretty soon, you will have a child to raise and you will DEFINITELY not have time for unnecessary stress and negativity. Be happy. Surround yourself with happy and supportive people. You can never make unhappy people happy. Talk to your baby. Love your husband. Love yourself. Meditate. Exercise. Be the best person you can possibly be, and you will attract those of the same path. Your growing family starts with you, your husband, and your little one waiting to come out into the world. They deserve your best self from this point onward, and so do you. Get used to it, its a great feeling!